For church on Sunday I played in the orchestra during service. As our dress code is all black for when we play I thought it was the perfect opportunity to try out my new black Tommy Hilfiger vintage slim (I say not for fashion’s sake, but because it has the best width for a slim upper body) tie. As I tied my Windsor and adjusted it in the mirror, I started to feel anxious.
This feeling increased as I walked to church. In my head I was playing out a scenario in which the orchestra conductor looked over at me and my tie and just said “no” and then asked me to take it off. From there I would insist that a tie wasn’t hurting anyone and I wouldn’t play without it. Then things would escalate and I would make a dramatic show of leaving. Then I would go teach my Bible Study class, cause I made a commitment and I stand by my commitments, and then a minister would come in and beg me to take off the tie. I would again insist that such a small piece of clothing shouldn’t matter to anyone. He would say he doesn’t care, but do it for the older people. And again I would say no, and then never return to church again.
Yeah. My mind sorta goes into overdrive sometimes. Then I thought that the above would probably not happen, but that I would get some awkwardness, faces, and questions about why would I wear a tie from my fellow Bible Study teachers and orchestra members.
I stood tall, prepared for the worst, and strode into the Sanctuary where the orchestra was prepping and…NO ONE SAID A THING. Not one person the entire day. The closest to any recognition of the tie I got was a short double-take by my music stand partner. Even the older ladies I work with to teach Bible Study showed no inkling of tie-worry.
I was almost disappointed! But then I looked around and saw a friend of mine, a gay male, who was wearing a hot pink polo, jeans, and heavily gelled hair. Oh and the skinny tall gay seminary student wearing a full length fake (obviously) leopard print stole. Compared to all of that my tie was a pittance. God loves me no matter what I wear and apparently so do the parishioners of my church.
So Sunday I wore a tie to church…and no one cared. The end.
QBP: "Church is the only place where someone speaks to me and I do not have to answer back." -Charles de Gaulle